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Rosebuds in Autumn, My Forever Son

I’ll Love You Forever Mom

“I’ll love you forever,

I’ll like you for always,

as long as I’m living

my baby you’ll be.”

Robert Munsch, Love Your Forever

Three Years Out After Losing Dylan

Originally Published 2016

I Will Love You Forever Mom

Memorial Dates

It has been 3 years of acute agony, pain, and the hell of grieving the loss of my only child to suicide. Beautiful, albeit bittersweet memories come sweeping in and across the landscape of my heart and for a precious moment in time, I am reminded of and surrounded by all the precious love bonds between Dylan and me.

Still Struggling with Grief

Other times, I am caught off guard in deep, deep ache and heart-wrenching pain. My son is dead. Dylan is dead. Tears always come, not always publicly, as I am sometimes able to make it to my car, or leave where I am to go home, other times I just let the tears fall.

I still sob after three years, just not as long and usually on my own, although this is not always the case. My cat comes to me when I cry. She circles my feet until I pick her up, then tucks into me. Perhaps Dylan is with me still.

For Mother's Day, from my son, An orange greeting card that says Mom I will love you forever, photograph of mother and baby swaddled, photographed for my forever son, I Will Love You Forever Mom
I Will Love You Forever Mom, My Forever Son

One Last Happy Mother’s Day Card

Yesterday, I found a Mother’s Day card from 2012. Dylan would dead within a month a couple of weeks post Mother’s Day. It is bright orange, Dylan’s favorite color as a child, and it is beautiful. I wasn’t looking for the card, and it kind of just appeared. I saw it sticking out of a pile of other cards and things I’ve been intending to sort, organize, and put in a keepsake box. 

Joy of Being Called Mom

The card says “mom, I can’t remember a time when I didn’t need your love and support. . .and I can’t imagine a time when I won’t. Happy Mother’s Day With Love.”

Dylan signed it “I’ll love you forever mom. Love Dylan.”

That did me in. It’s now on my desk beside me, propped open to the “I’ll love you forever mom, Love, Dylan.”

He knew, he just couldn’t tell me.

I love him so much still, always, forever. Love doesn’t die. It is only this interim between now and when I get to see him again that brings ache and sadness and a constant heavy heart.

Beth, Dylan’s Mom
March 19, 1992-June 25, 2012
Forever my heart, my wings, my love

Orange inside of a mother's day greeting card I Will Love You Forever Mom, My Forever Son
I Will Love You Forever Mom, My Forever Son

I did, in the beginning of my grief, believe I was telling Dylan’s stories.

I now see I am telling my own.

My son Dylan, a young toddler, climbing the stairs and staring straight back at me and smiling.
Dylan, My Forever Son

Rising Up Because

  • I will not let the world forget my son lived.
  • Grief has brought me to the edge of myself.
  • And it’s brought me to that place where I can’t stand any more pain, where all that’s left is surrender.
  • I straddle love for and loss of my son. In the beginning, I could only see pain. But I’ve learned to live carrying both loving memories of Dylan and this impossible pain of devastating loss.

Hope

To those of you that still feel you aren’t even sure you want to be here and you can’t imagine ever being happy again. The pain does change, it softens. You will want to live again and be able to enjoy
life again. It will never be like before but the crushing, all consuming pain you feel right now will soften. You will be able to live with it. It just becomes part of you.

A bereaved parent who lost her son to suicide-Excerpt from Rising Up-Because Love Lives Forever, My Forever Son

Rising Up Because…

I will not let the world forget my son lived. My memories, stories, and writing keep his life going on. I did, in the beginning of my grief, believe I was telling Dylan’s stories. I now see I am telling my own.

Grief has brought me to the edge of myself–that place in despair where I have screamed: “Bring it! Just Bring It!” then collapsed into tears.

And it’s brought me to that place where I can’t stand any more pain, where all that’s left is surrender. Not willingly. Not because my heart has healed. And not because I’ve finished grieving the loss of my son. That place where sky meets sun in the middle of a storm, that rainbow, love living with loss, loss still there but love shining too. That’s surrender.

I straddle love for and loss of my son. In the beginning, I could only see pain. But I’ve learned to live carrying both loving memories of Dylan and this impossible pain of devastating loss.

Beth Brown, My Forever Son, Rising Up

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Black and White photo of young man, arms crossed, wearing an Ibanez guitar t-shirt, graffeti in the background, dark hair, dark eyes staring into the camera, words in left-hand corner of photo: Nothing lasts forever, for all good things it's true, I'd rather trade it all, while somehow saving you, lyrics to a song by avengend sevenfold, a rock band
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As I Tuck You In: Song for Child Loss

Young toddler climbing the stairs looking back and smiling at his mother who is taking the photograph, My Forever Son, I Will Love You Always
As I Tuck You In

As I tuck you in, I lay me down
As I hold you now, I lift my arms
As I fall asleep, I pray for you
My child, my love, my heart, I’m with you too
My child, my love, my heart, May God keep and love you

And you will be forevermore
Safe from this world and so adored
And God will be your comforter
And I will always thank God for rescuing you
And I will always praise God for loving you too

And so I live my life in memory
Surrendering to God, what now must be
But here on earth I know the angels sing
When I hear your voice I know God’s listening

And I will always be your mother here
And I will speak your name for all to hear
And God will be with you ’til I get there
My child on earth above in heaven’s care

My child on earth above in heaven’s care-

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