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“When Someone Takes His Own Life”-Depression and Suicide

ABOUT THIS POST: “When Someone Takes His Own Life”-Depression and Suicide provides a compassionate exploration of grief, suicide, and the challenges faced by those left behind. The excerpts from “The Healing of Sorrow” and “When Someone is Too Bruised to Be Touched” offer valuable insights and perspectives on suicide as an illness rather than a sin.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Beth Brown, My Forever Son: I lost my only child, my 20-year-old son, to suicide on June 25, 2012. Suicide changes everything.

Living Past the Pain

My life turned upside down, and 11 years out from losing Dylan, I’m still picking up the pieces of my forever shattered life. I’ve had to learn to live past the pain that losing a child to suicide brings.

Acute grief brought a darkness and a despair, the depths of which I’ve never known.

Coping With First Year Grief

The first year grief was impossible. I read as much as I could about losing a child to suicide and about suicide in general. I joined support groups. And I researched sites online:

Coping with Guilt in Grief

I needed strategies and support for coping with guilt. I learned that even though I felt alone, I wasn’t alone. From other parents who had lost a child to suicide, I learned that I can make it through grief, one breath at a time, one day at a time. I learned that feeling guilt is a part of grieving a loved one’s death by suicide.

The two articles that appear below, “When Someone Takes His Own Life” and “When Someone is Too Bruised to Be Touched,” are articles I read early in my grief. Both articles address guilt in grief after suicide loss. Ronald Rolheiser, in his essay “When Someone Is Too Bruised to Be Touched,” writes with a compassionate point of view regarding guilt in grief.

Hope and Healing

My Forever Son: Chronicling Grief, Hope, and Healing After Losing My Son to Suicide, is a blog I began in 2015. I find healing in nature and writing, and I write poems and songs about losing a child to suicide. A collection of some of my poems can be found here: Find Hope Here: Poems About Losing a Child to Suicide.

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Bury My Heart–A Poem About Losing a Child

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Excerpt from “The Healing of Sorrow”

By Norman Vincent Peale

In many ways, this seems the most tragic form of death. Certainly it can entail more shock and grief for those who are left behind than any other. And often the stigma of suicide is what rests most heavily on those left behind.

Suicide is often judged to be essentially a selfish act…I think our reaction should be one of love and pity, not of condemnation. Perhaps the person was not thinking clearly in his final moments; perhaps he was so driven by emotional whirlwinds that he was incapable of thinking at all.

This is terribly sad. But surely it is understandable. All of us have moments when we lost control of ourselves, flashes of temper, or irritation, of selfishness that we later regret.

Each one of us, probably, has a final breaking point–or would have if our faith did not sustain us. Life puts more pressure on some of us than it does on others. Some people have more stamina than others.


When I see in the paper, as I do all too often, that dark despair has rolled over some lonely soul, so much so that for him life seemed unendurable, my reaction is not one of condemnation. It is, rather,
“There but for the grace of God”

And my heart goes out to those who are left behind, because I know that they suffer terribly. Children in particular are left under a cloud of “differentness” all the more terrifying because it can never be fully explained or lifted.

The immediate family of the victim is left wide open to tidal waves of guilt “What did I fail to do that I should have done? What did I do that was wrong?”

To such grieving persons I can only say, “Lift up your heads and hearts. Surely you did your best. And surely the loved one who is gone did his best, for as long as he could. Remember, now, that his battles and torments are over. Do not judge him, and do not presume to fathom the mind of God where this one of His children is concerned.”

A few days ago, when a young man died by his own had, a service for him was conducted by his pastor, the Rev. Warren Stevens. What he said that day expresses, far more eloquently than I can, the message that I’m trying to convey.

Here are some of his words:

“Our friend died on his own battlefield. He was killed in action fighting a civil war. He fought against adversaries that were as real to him as his casket is real to us.

They were powerful adversaries. They took toll of his energies and endurance. They exhausted the last vestiges of his courage and strength. At last these adversaries overwhelmed him. And it appeared that he lost the war.

But did he? I see a host of victories that he has won!
For one thing — he has won our admiration — because even if he lost the war, we give him credit for his bravery on the battlefield. And we give him credit for the courage and pride and hope that he used as his weapons as long as he could.

We shall remember not his death, but his daily victories gained through his kindnesses and thoughtfulness, through his love for family and friends, for animals and books and music, for all things beautiful, lovely and honorable.

We shall remember the many days that he was victorious over overwhelming odds. We shall remember not the years we thought he had left, but the intensity with which he lived the years he had!


Only God knows what this child of His suffered in the silent skirmishes that took place in his soul. But our consolation is that God does know and understands!”

Norman Vincent Peale, Excerpt from “The Healing of Sorrow”

ABOUT THIS ARTICLE: “When Someone is Too Bruised to be Touched” (by Ronald Rolheiser) is a compassionate look at how God can reach through closed doors–even when we cannot–to comfort our loved one struggling with depression and suicidal thinking. Ronald Rolheiser writes regularly about depression and suicide focusing on where God is in the midst of our sadness, ache, grief, and suicidal thinking.

“When Someone is Too Bruised to be Touched”

When Someone is Too Bruised to be Touched


  By Ron Rolheiser

 
A few days ago, I was asked to visit a family who had, just that day, lost their 19 year-old son to suicide.
 
There isn’t much one can offer by way of consolation, even faith consolation, at a moment like this, when everyone is in shock and the pain is so raw. Few things can so devastate us as the suicide of a loved one, especially of one’s own child.

There is the horrific shock of losing a loved one so suddenly which, just of itself, can bring us to our knees; but, with suicide, there are other soul-wrenching feelings too, confusion, guilt, second-guessing, religious anxiety. Where did we fail this person? What might we still have done? What should we have noticed? What is this person’s state with God?

What needs to be said about all of this: First of all, that suicide is a disease and the most misunderstood of all sicknesses. It takes a person out of life against his or her will, the emotional equivalent of cancer, a stroke, or a heart attack.

Second, we, those left behind, need not spend undue energy second-guessing as to how we might have failed that person, what we should have noticed, and what we might still have done to prevent the suicide. Suicide is an illness and, as with any sickness, we can love someone and still not be able to save that person from death. God loved this person too and, like us, could not, this side of eternity, do anything either.

Finally, we shouldn’t worry too much about how God meets this person on the other side. God’s love, unlike ours, can go through locked doors and touch what will not allow itself to be touched by us.

Is this making light of suicide? Hardly. Anyone who has ever dealt with either the victim of a suicide before his or her death or with those grieving that death afterwards knows that it is impossible to make light of it.

There is no hell and there is no pain like the one suicide inflicts. Nobody who is healthy wants to die and nobody who is healthy wants to burden his or her loved ones with this kind of pain. And that’s the point: This is only done when someone isn’t healthy. The fact that medication can often prevent suicide should tell us something.

Suicide is an illness not a sin. Nobody just calmly decides to commit suicide and burden his or her loved ones with that death any more than anyone calmly decides to die of cancer and cause pain.

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There is no hell and there is no pain like the one suicide inflicts. Nobody who is healthy wants to die and nobody who is healthy wants to burden his or her loved ones with this kind of pain.


Fr. Ron Rolheiser, When Someone is Too Bruised to Be Touched

Reflections

Others can come alongside us for awhile, but our journey into the deep, dark night must be our own. Here, we rally against the darkness, awaken our soul’s deep slumber of the “normalcy” of everyday life, and do fierce battle with an enemy unseen. Grief torments, ruminates, is recursive and in the end, in losing a child to suicide, is unfinished. My son is a warrior son, and I, by default and through journeying my soul’s dark night in grieving losing Dylan to suicide, am a warrior mama.

One day, there will be reconciling and resolution, but it is I who must learn to walk unfinished here, finding, once again, love, meaning, and purpose in the walking out of my life’s journey. I walk with grief. I carry the weight of bearing deep sorrow in my soul. I am a survivor of suicide. No matter how “good” things get, no matter the profundity of my joy and happiness here, as is, as now, I will always be tinged and laced with the bittersweet. 


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“That All of Love Could Sweep Time Back”: Poem on Guilt in Grief is a powerful poem that reflects the overwhelming “could’ve, should’ve, would’ve” guilt parents experience after losing a child to suicide. The poetic language directly addresses the haunting “What If?” and “Why Didn’t I See?” questions that plague those left behind, emphasizing the helplessness and regret that linger after such a tragic loss. The poem serves as a conduit for healing and self-forgiveness, exploring the possibility of moving beyond guilt and embracing acceptance, allowing love to shine through even the darkest of times.

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Haunted by Guilt in Grief Poem: “Still from Sky I’m Falling” is a poignant poem that captures the intense emotions of grief and guilt after losing a child to suicide. The verses convey heartbreak and the struggle to find solace, using nature as a symbol for the grief journey. Vivid imagery of hawks circling above parallels feelings of despair, evoking a sense of helplessness in processing pain. Every line resonates with the weight of memories and the ache of loss, inviting readers to reflect on their own experiences with grief.



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Suicide can leave the survivors with anger, confusion and guilt, and even well-intentioned words can cause pain.

By Gayle Brandeis, “What to Say (and Not to Say) to Someone Grieving a Suicide” The New York Times, May 8, 2019

How to Offer Grief Support to Parents When Their Child Has Died by Suicide

There Are No Words

What to Say to Parents Who Lose a Child to Suicide? As a mother who lost her son and only child to suicide, I can vouch for how stymied people get when they try to offer their condolences to parents bereaved by the suicide of the their child. The stigma around “suicide” lends a sense of awkwardness to even saying the name of this form of death out loud. I didn’t know how true this was until my son died by suicide. The stigma of suicide is compounded by multiple complicating factors, including religious and societal expectations (Suicide is Not a Choice: Surviving Your Child’s Suicide.)

Recently after my son died, I attended a Labor Day party that included my colleagues from work. The greatest gift of grief support came from a colleague who simply offered these words: “There are no words.”

Yes-when a parent loses a child, “there are no words.” And yes, when a parent loses a child by suicide, “there are no words.” The solemnity of the tragedy of my son’s sudden death was expressed in those few chosen words: “There are no words.” Grief after losing a child to suicide involves parental guilt, wrestling with self-blame, questioning what you missed, and more: (5 Ways Suicide Grief is Different)

Please Ask My Child’s Name

Asking me to tell you about my child is not the same as asking me to explain their death. Ask my child’s name and what they were like because I (just like most parents) love to talk about my child. If I have tears, it’s because I lost my child and not because you brought the subject up.

It does my heart good to hear my child’s name. If you knew my child, I welcome stories and memories of my child. It’s a lonely world without my child, and it’s easy to feel everyone’s forgotten I have a child who lived and breathed–and mattered. (Listen to Original Music About Losing a Child to Suicide: Songs for Child Loss: A Heartfelt Collection of Original Music.)

Platitudes Don’t Help

“At least you had your son for 19 years.” “He’s in a better place.” “It isn’t right.” “Suicide is selfish.” “God must have needed another angel.” “You’re so strong.” “I know just how you feel.” Or worse yet, “I’d just die if anything happened to my child.”

As well meaning as these things that were said to me were, not a single one helped ease my burden of mourning and grief after the death of my son by suicide. I am not strong because I survived my son’s death. I live on because as long as I live, my son does too.


Healing Words: Download 3 Compassionate Poems for Coping with the Loss of a Child

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Few things can so devastate us as the suicide of a loved one, especially of one’s own child.

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Stigma of Suicide

My son died by suicide. Perhaps the harshest stigma of suicide persists (and still exists) when someone who has died by suicide is said to have “committed” suicide. To “commit suicide” is lexicon that harkens back to a time when historically, dying by suicide was considered a criminal act because so little was understood about suicide. No one “commits” death; dying by suicide is properly referred to as she or he “died by suicide.”

the criminal language associated with the suicidal act endures in the lexicon. Specifically, using the phrase “to ‘commit’ suicide” equates the act with homicide or fratricide, and suggests that it is akin to “self-murder”.

Jack Jordan, Ph.D., clinical psychologist and grief counselor, Coping with Suicide Loss–And How to Help a Grieving Friend
Suicide is a Tragedy

The will to live and the instinct of “fight or flight” means that we rally against death and dying as long as we can in our lifetimes. Suicide is not “selfish” any more than dying by heart disease or cancer is “selfish.” Suicide is a tragic death, a sudden, violent, and unexpected death. Dying by suicide doesn’t make sense, and research is now focused on preventing death by suicide.

In Resilience is Living in the Glare of My Son’s Suicide, I share how my narrative, unchanged as it is and forever stricken by tragedy, has helped shape my healing throughout my grief.

Break the Silence, Shame, Stigma

How to break the stigma of suicide? As the mother of an only child who died by suicide, I find research that suggests suicide is always preventable deeply disturbing. I do not believe this means of death can always be prevented any more than any other means of death can always be prevented. The important word is “always.”

Suicide research, including groundbreaking research at the Center for Suicide Prevention and Research, Nationwide Children’s Hospital is absolutely essential for knowing how to prevent what seems an unnecessary means of death. Suicide intervention can help, understanding and talking about suicide can help, and post-vention follow-up can help those who have attempted suicide.

In The Pain of Suicide: It’s Not About Wanting to Die; It’s About Wanting the Pain to Stop, I discuss the misguided notion that suicide always means an intended death.

I write more about why suicide is about wanting the pain to stop in Surviving the Suicide of My Son: Everything I Learned About Grief and Healing.

Can suicide be prevented?

But for a mother or father who has lost a child to suicide, that the death of their child might have been prevented places a heavy burden of shame and blame on their parenting abilities. That something must have been “wrong” at home with the parenting when a child dies by suicide is simply not true.

Breaking the stigma of suicide means breaking the taboo of silence around suicide. Talk to those who have lost a loved one to suicide; offer condolences; provide emotional and physical support just as you would any parent who loses a child to any means of death. Carrying Ache and Love in Suicide Loss describes my hope and healing as I learned to bear the weight of crippling loss coupled with my deep love for my son.

I Couldn’t Keep My Child Safe

There is no equivalent to losing a child. And when a child dies by suicide, the parent(s) already feel isolated. “Why?” “How did I fail my child?” “Why couldn’t I keep my child safe?” are questions that haunt those left behind. In breaking the silence and talking about suicide, we break the stigma of shame surrounding a mysterious death. Coping with Guilt After Losing a Child to Suicide offers support strategies and tips for handling the heavy burden of self-blame and guilt parents can feel when they lose a child to suicide.

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Things to Say that Might Help Parents

Because of the taboo and stigma attached historically to [suicide], too many people think that they should not bring it up at all.

Alan Wolfelt, Ph.D., Grief counselor and educator, Center for Loss and Life Transition, The stigma associated with bereavement by suicide and other sudden deaths, National Library of Medicine

Too often, others simply do not know how to talk to a parent who has lost a child to suicide. They fear upsetting the parent(s) so they say nothing.

Grief counselor Jack Jordan advises: “The first thing is to not treat suicide as if it’s so weird or different or special that you don’t say anything.”

So offer your condolences. Attend the funeral if you can. Send flowers and a handwritten note. All of these acknowledge that something really tragic has happened for the person, and it communicates that you’re really willing to be there for the person rather than, ‘This is too difficult and awkward to talk about.’

Jack Jordan, Ph.D., clinical psychologist and grief counselor, 7 Things to Say When a Friend’s Loved One Dies by Suicide (and 3 to Avoid)

How I Survived the Suicide of My Son: 15 Tips for Grieving Parents

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“10 ways to support a loved one who has lost someone to suicide”

By the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention

The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention provides a rich resource bank of personal narratives, books for loss survivor and how to support suicide loss survivors. Here are some of their suggestions for how to support a loved one who has lost someone to suicide.

Watching a loved one struggle with the pain and devastation of losing someone to suicide can make you feel utterly helpless. You might want to reach out, but hesitate because you don’t know what to say or do, and perhaps worry you might somehow make them feel worse.

American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, 10 Ways to Support a Loved One Who Has Lost Someone to Suicide
  1. Refrain from saying “I know how you feel” unless you are also a suicide loss survivor. Instead, something like, “I don’t know what to say: I have no idea what you’re going through, but I care about you and I want to be here for you,” will be more honest and meaningful.
  2. Read about suicide loss. You’ll better understand what your loved one is experiencing, and in the process might discover helpful information you can share with them.
  3. Don’t wait for your loved one to ask you for help; they may be too deep in their grief to realize what they need. Rather than saying, “Let me know if I can help,” do something specific for them, like shop for groceries, offer to babysit, bring dinner to their home, etc.
  4. Help connect your loved one with other suicide loss survivors through International Survivors of Suicide Loss Day, AFSP’s Healing Conversations program, and bereavement support groups.(When appropriate, consider offering to accompany them to an event so that they don’t feel so alone.)
  5. Many people find that professional counseling helps them deal with their grief in a healthy way. Help your loved one search for a therapist, schedule appointments, etc.
  6. Don’t be afraid to speak the name of the person who died. Your loved one will be grateful for the opportunity to reminisce.
  7. Knowing what to expect and learning from someone else’s experience can help both you and your loved one get through the more difficult times.
  8. Just be there. Sit with them. Watch TV or a movie. Listen to music. Go for a walk together.
  9. Be patient. This experience has changed your loved one’s life forever. The weeks and months following the funeral, when the initial shock wears off and the full reality of what has happened sinks in, may be the toughest for them. Continue to check in, and let them know you are thinking of them, that you’re there for them, and that you want to listen.
  10. This experience has changed your loved one’s life forever. The weeks and months following the funeral, when the initial shock wears off and the full reality of what has happened sinks in, may be the toughest for them. Continue to check in, and let them know you are thinking of them, that you’re there for them, and that you want to listen.

Find Hope Here: Poems of Love, Loss, and Losing a Child to Suicide


Bury My Heart: A Book of Poems About Losing a Child to Suicide

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Bury My Heart: 19 Poems for Grief and Healing After Losing a Child to Suicide

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A deeply compassionate and heartfelt collection of poems that gently explores the profound sorrow of losing a child to suicide and the delicate journey toward healing.

Through tender and touching language, the poet, Beth Brown, resonates with the heavy emotions that accompany such a loss, offering solace and understanding to those navigating the complex feelings that arise in the aftermath of such a tragic event.

About the Collection:

The poems in Bury My Heart intimately capture the author’s heartfelt journey through the profound grief of losing a child to suicide, inviting readers into the deeply personal and vulnerable moments of heartache and sorrow.

  • Exploring Despair: Each poem thoughtfully navigates the depths of despair and anguish.
  • Finding Hope: Illuminates glimmers of hope and resilience that emerge amidst such unimaginable pain.

This collection of poems serves as a deeply personal refuge for the author and a comforting embrace for those who have faced similar heartache.

Why Read This Book?

Bury My Heart: 19 Poems for Grief and Healing After Losing a Child to Suicide offers an intimate exploration of the profound emotions intertwined with loss, serving as a gentle reminder that healing is possible.


Through heartfelt verses, Bury My Heart encapsulates the journey of grief and invites readers into a space of solace and understanding, reassuring them they are not alone in their pain.

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Surviving the Suicide of Your Child: Support, Resources, Hope Summary The article “Surviving the Suicide of Your Child: Support, Resources, Hope” by Beth Brown offers support and resources for parents grieving the loss of a child to suicide. Brown shares her personal journey and provides recommendations for support groups, books, and online resources. The article…

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Share your story of grief in year three:

As the third year after losing a child unfolds, grief transforms into a complex tapestry of emotions. The initial pain may dull, but the absence remains palpable. Many parents grapple with a new layer of sorrow that is hard to articulate. You may notice unexpected joy mixed with intense longing, as life moves on while an irreplaceable void lingers.

In this stage, it’s common to reflect on milestones that should have been shared—birthdays, graduations, or simply daily routines that feel incomplete. You might begin to discover what “moving forward” means for you, while still being anchored in the memory of your child.

What does your experience look like in year three?

  • How have you learned to cope with the ongoing feelings of loss and love during this time?
  • What reflections or memories bring both comfort and sorrow as you navigate this part of your grief journey?
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By Beth Brown

Musician. Writer. Literary Connoisseur. Always writing, scribbling poetry, turning feelings into words. "Break my heart even further" can't ever be done, for I lost my heart the night I lost my son. Come find me writing at My Forever Son: Grief, Hope, and Healing After Losing My Son to Suicide.

At the whim of Most Beloved Cat, I write as she tattles on the garden cats. Find Most Beloved Cat sharing her stories at Gardens at Effingham: Where Cats Tell the Tales

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